May your sexy never leave you.

At what age does one lose their sexy? One day, you’re decently carefree, and the next, you’re a stranger in a strange land, navigating wrinkles, hair loss, growing middles, and new sexual challenges that, at least for me, my younger self could never imagine. It definitely can affect our relationship with our sexual selves. One day you’re feeling like a character on  Sex and the City, and the next, you’re a Golden Girl. No shade to the Golden Girls- love them down, but I that depiction of how women age in their 50s isn’t even how I want to be in my 70s! Now, I feel that how one wants to age is a personal choice and should never be shamed, but I don’t feel like the sexuality of Dorothy, Rose, and even Blanche was really taken seriously.

I am encouraged by more modern depictions of aging and sexuality. Seema’s character in “And Just Like That…” may make some uncomfortable, but she gave me life, demonstrating that single middle-aged women can live their best sexy lives, unapologetically. More of that, please! Now, I would have loved for them to highlight all the medical interventions that may have made this possible (estradiol and testosterone, anyone?), but maybe we’ll get to that in another show as sadly, it is no more.

However, I’m loving the conversations my girlfriends and I are having about sex, aging, hormones, and our appearances, honestly and without shame. Hell, one of my girlfriends places her estrogen pellets on her bathroom counter in a glass jar, fully explaining to her live-in boyfriend what they are and what they’re for. And why shouldn’t she? Lord knows we’ve all seen more erectile disfunction commercials than we can count. While we don’t have to scream about vaginal dryness to the rafters, we shouldn’t have to hide it, either. We deserve to feel better in every way. That includes feeling better about our aging sexy parts. I personally plan to use mine for a very long time.